How To Forgo Summer Camp & Save MoneyWhy send your kids to summer camp this year?  You can save so much more money by creating your own summer camp and spend that much needed time with your kiddos this summer!

By doing a bit of research, you can keep your summer spending to a minimum and still be able to enjoy all that your city has to offer.  I usually make a list of my kids favorite places and start there. 

Free Movies Days

Well, when my kids we’re much smaller, summer camp movies were free.  Now, depending on the theater you go to, it can be anywhere from $1-$4.  Either way, it’s still much cheaper than a full price ticket.

Living in sunny Southern California, I usually opt for Regal Cinemas or AMC Theatres.  Both offer summer camp movies 2 days a week and if you click on the links above, you can find theaters near you with a list of movies playing all summer.  Granted, these movies are NOT new movies, but escaping the heat, soaking in the air conditioning, and letting the big screen entertain your kids for a while, more than makes up for it.

Free Museum Days

If you’re like me and like to add a little culture and some learning to your outings, free museum days are a great deal.  Whether it’s checking out dinosaur bones or gazing at the stars, you’re sure to find something that will keep them entertained for hours and tire them out just enough to let you enjoy the day as well.  Some of the museums on this link are always free, some have certain days of the month available, and some are just by donations.  Rest assured, that if museums are on your list, you’ll find one right up your alley and with just a little bit of planning, it’ll make the kids happy as well.

Free Park Days

I know I already mentioned movies.  However, for a much more fun outing, pack a snack, bring your camping chairs, and catch a movie under the stars.  Most communities have local parks that plan both movies in the park or if you feel like dancing under the stars, music in the park.  Both of these fun outings beat the heat by being night time events and tons of family fun.  Best part about these, they’re free!

However, if you want some fun Adult time of the same variety, check out the Rooftop Cinema Club.  This specific one is local to L.A., but I’m sure most big cities have something similar.  How fun is watching movies outdoors, under the stars, surrounded by the glowing lights of the city!?!

Or maybe you’d like something a little more adventurous and want to watch movies surrounded by dead people.  For those thrill seekers, Cinespa shows movies in two locations, the famous Hollywood Forever Cemetery or historic movie palaces around L.A..

Whether you choose the rooftop, cemetery, or palace, expect to pay for much more than just the movie, but with an experience like that, why not?

Free Beach Days

Most beaches in southern California have some type of parking fee, but usually it’s minimal.  However, a couple bucks to soak in some rays, getting wet, and tiring out the kids is more that worth it.  Don’t let parking fees keep you away, there are so many beaches in California, it’s not hard to find free parking either. 

Don’t want to melt in the sun?  How about the beach at night?  That’s right, it’s the time of year that the grunion run.   Don’t worry, you don’t have to run after fish on the beach, they come to you.  If you’re not interested in getting fishy, let the kids do it, or just let it be a learning experience.  Trust me, the kids will love it and you’ll love doing something free, under the stars, spending time with the kids, while they run around ‘til their little hearts are content.

Catch a local Ball Game

I’m lucky enough to live in an area with two Baseball teams, so I have my choice to choose from.  To get the best bang for my buck, I go with companies like seatgeek.com or cheaptickets.com.  I can get Dodger or Angels tickets starting at $5 each!  Which means, for my family of 4, I can catch a local ball game for $20, plus parking.  Granted, you’re not allowed to take your own snacks in, but you can have a large dinner before the game, tailgate, or spurge at any one of the food booths they have to offer.  Usually, this is the only family outing we spend a little bit more on during the summer.  But considering I’m saving so much money on everything else, it’s worth catching a game or two this summer.

So there you go, with a little bit of planning, a packed lunch, and some sunscreen, your kids will love the summer camp you have custom built for them, much more than those other ones.  Have fun!

-Sandra

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Uber Rider 101As an Uber driver, I have read countless articles on how to be a better Uber driver, ways to give outstanding service, how to get 5 stars and such. However, I have yet to read a single article on how to be a better rider.  Maybe it’s the whole “the customer is always right” bit.  Having been on the giving and receiving side of the service industry, this is not always true. I’ll not bore anyone with 101 ways to be a better Uber rider, but I will let you in on the top 5 ways to improve your riding experience regardless of who your driver is.

  1. Be considerate

This should be a given and you may think, you don’t have to be because you’re paying for a service. But here’s the thing, you are getting into someone’s PERSONAL car. Uber “the company” does not pay our car payment, they don’t wash our cars, they don’t pay our insurance, heck, they don’t even put gas in our cars.  These are OUR vehicles. We use these vehicles in our everyday life. To take our kids to school. To go to church on Sunday. To go to our other jobs. So in this instance “do to others as you would have others do unto you”. 

I have been lucky and have not had a problem in this area, but I’ve heard some horror stories.  Uber riders I’ve had have been extremely respectful and even ask if eating in the vehicle is permitted. I personally do not mind, as long as what you bring into my car is taken with you. Common courtesy goes a long way.

  1. Be understanding

You may have taken a particular route a million times, but chances are your Uber driver has not. We have our GPS to guide us, but if you prefer an alternate route, say so. Most of us don’t mind, especially if you can maneuver us around construction or traffic. But understand that there are some drivers out there that prefer to stick to the map. If they do, don’t get offended, just sit back and enjoy the ride and be confident in the fact that Uber has provided us with the means to get you to where you are going.

  1. Have a conversation

If you feel awkward getting into a strangers car, realize that we are human too and probably feel a bit awkward about it as well.  I tend to break the ice by confirming the destination and usually ask if they are headed to work and what time they start. I can’t control the traffic, or if Uber was called too late to get to work on time, but at least I know I can do whatever I possibly can to get there on time.

I’m not breaking any laws or getting a ticket for my Uber rider, but I’ll usually let them know what the map ETA states, so they are aware of the length of time in the car.  Usually, that bit of conversation is enough to naturally ease into further conversation. But in the event that it doesn’t, at least it subdued the awkwardness for both of us.

  1. You’re an Uber Rider, Enjoy the Ride

The whole point of Uber is to get from point A to point B without driving yourself. I drive in Southern California in an area notorious for its traffic. If you’re taking an Uber, there may be traffic to contend with, but you can relax and let your driver maneuver around it. The best thing about Uber is the stress free ride; letting someone else take the wheel. Knowing we’ve been vetted and given the green light to do so.

Nothing stresses out a driver more, than a back seat driver. I don’t mean the location of your seat, but the manner in which you give us directions and stress us out about driving you. If you wanted to be a back seat driver, you should’ve driven yourself. So enjoy it, converse with us, catch up on some zzz’s, tune us out and tune into some music, it’s your time. Do whatever you’d like to enjoy not having to drive yourself.

  1. Rate us

I’m not asking for 5 stars, and I’m definitely not asking to be 1-starred. Just be honest. I’d rather know I need to improve, than to NOT know I’m doing something wrong, if that’s the case. If you like the service, let us know. If you didn’t, let us know why. It’s that simple. All I ask is to be honest. Don’t be spiteful. If you give a low star, just explain why so we can improve ourselves. We’re human, not robots. We need feedback.

What most Uber riders don’t know is that we rate you as well. It works both ways. Uber wants to know if a rider needs to have their riding privileges revoked or if a driver does. So being honest with your feedback is the best thing you can do for everyone using Uber. Because you can rest assure that since we are required to rate every passenger, we wouldn’t want to pass on a nightmare passenger to the next driver, if it could’ve been prevented.

At the end of the day

You want a more pleasant experience and you want to know if there was something you could’ve done to have one.  Well, here you go. I’ve given you a list of things that are within your control for a more pleasant Uber ride. If doing 1-4 doesn’t make it more enjoyable, then you have #5 to make it more enjoyable for the next person that gets in that car.  Consider it your social obligation to keep great Uber drivers on the road and bad ones off the streets.

-Sandra

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Divorce and the 5 Things I didn't ExpectPeople don’t understand the ups and downs of divorce unless they’ve gone through it. Everyone learns at their own pace and have their own “ah-ha” moments, these are just a few of mine.

1. The person you married isn’t the person you’re divorcing. 

I married the boy next door (actually, across the street). I had known him my whole life and would’ve bet everything that our divorce would be civil. Boy, was I wrong. He became a person I no longer recognized. If I would’ve met this version of him from the get-go, I would’ve ran, fast!

2. You lose so much more than expected. 

It’s not the division of assets that throws you off, that’s an expected part of divorce. It’s the division of friends and family. Those people that you welcomed into your home, that were there for huge milestones, that had your back. You don’t just lose them to your ex, you sometimes lose them because they just don’t agree with your decision to divorce.

3. You’ll be treated like a failure.

No matter what you believe. Especially if you believe you’ve done the right thing. There will always be those that treat you as if you’re a failure. You’ll get the “oh, you’re divorced?” with the head-tilt-of-pity. As divorcees, we beat ourselves up enough about this one, but to have to face everyone else’s judgement of your decision is just horrible.

4. It’s not over once you sign on the dotted line.

I wish I could have had a mulligan. Hindsight is 20/20 as everyone knows. If we knew then, what we know now, we could’ve saved ourselves a whole lot of heartache. However, that’s not how life works. Divorce is a process, especially if you have children and have to co-parent, it’ll take a very long time for some sense of normalcy to roll around.

5. Divorce leaves you jaded in a way you don’t anticipate it to.

It might not necessarily be a bad thing. I’ve learned what I’m just not willing to put up with within a relationship. You get real, real quick, with the people around you and all that additional BS that comes with the relationship dance, goes out the window. Those boundaries might have been there before, but you don’t have that misguided notion that things will eventually change into what you really want. My second time around, I approached dating like a business meeting. Weeded out what I couldn’t live with, accepted (wholeheartedly) what I could live with, and enjoyed the ride and truly fell in love.

Here’s the thing: to each their own. 

It took me a long time to even pull the trigger on my divorce, so much longer than I would’ve done, had I not been listening to everyone around me. No one lived my life. No one cried my tears. No one even held my hand through it. But I survived.

Why am I not miserable you ask? How did I survive?

I made things easy for myself. I gave myself a break. I allowed myself to feel every single emotion. It was a 15 year marriage. You don’t get over it overnight. Most of all, I reminded myself of what my grandmother taught me, “he who gets mad, has 2 jobs, to get mad and to get over it”. I decided to go straight to getting over it. I exhausted my energy on that, rather on being mad and jaded and miserable and resentful. I was worth more than that.

It’s unfortunate that ‘divorce’ still has the stigma that it has. However, pulling myself out of a situation that was unhealthy for myself and my children is the best decision I’ve ever made. Stigma or not, that’s everyone’s else’s issues and I don’t subscribe to those. I subscribe to being surrounded by the strength of those that have been there for me and those that have gone through a divorce and understand what coming out on the other side means. Divorce equals being strong enough to value yourself enough to leave an unhealthy situation, it’s not failure. Failure is staying and being miserable in a marriage long after it’s over.

-Sandra

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5 daily reminders for successful coparentingSaying goodbye to a loved one, whether alive or not, is not an easy task. Let’s just acknowledge that an ending, any ending, is usually very hard.  Having gone through a divorce, I have to say, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.  I know not everyone has the same experience and I envy those that have had an amicable divorce from the beginning.  But usually, the word divorce is synonymous with heartbreak, pain, stress, etc.  Obviously, if we were on the same page, we wouldn’t be divorced.  But we’re divorced, what now?

I’ve learned that as much as a marriage is between two people, everyone in your life usually takes a side. Our families divorced, our friends divorced, teachers took sides.  Who knew there were so many people in our marriage?  All that doesn’t matter now.  What happened in our marriage is over, but what happens from here on out is what matters.  The mental and emotional health of our kids is what matters.

In many cases, mine included, it’s an uphill battle.  It hurts, and when people are hurt, they tend to want to hurt those that hurt them.  Everyone heals differently.  The easy part is over, signing on the dotted line and ending the marriage, regardless of the division of assets and such.  The hard part is the co-parenting.  It’s taken 7 years for us to learn how to co-parent and it’s still a learning process, but we’re getting there.  Every situation is different and there are tons of advice I can give, but below are the top 5 daily reminders that kept me sane and fighting to successfully co-parent.

Learn Some Emotional Intelligence
  1. Learn to NOT be reactive.  Understand that you and only you are responsible for your reaction no matter what is done to push your buttons.  There truly is a thin line between love and hate and when you have loved someone so deeply and it’s gone, it’s a normal reaction to jump to the other side.  DON’T.  Love them for the person they are.  Love them for what they brought into your life.  Remember their good attributes.  Focus on the positive.  There are plenty of them.  Hurt is keeping you from seeing them.  After all, you did fall in love with them.  Remember why.  Not to fall back in love, but to not fall into hate.  At the end of the day, they are half of your child and if you hate them, aren’t you also hating that half of them in your children?  For the love of your children, keep it positive.  If they push your buttons, acknowledge it for what it is, hurt trying to hurt you back.  It’s okay for them to be hurt, they will lash out.  Acknowledge it, let it go, and address the situation.  Mom was right, be the bigger person.  Not because they don’t deserve a piece of your mind, but because your kids deserve not to be in a tornado of emotions and fights.  Divorce is hard enough on them, don’t make it harder.
Pick Your Battles
  1. I think this applies to all relationships in your life.  Does it really matter that your ex, was 5 minutes late to drop them off?  Or that they’re wearing two different socks?  Focus on what matters. Are they happy when they come back home?  Did they have a great time with your ex?  Don’t be hurt, they love you just as much.  Encourage them to have a great relationship with your ex.  You can’t be the buffer for them anymore.  They’re no longer your spouse to tell them what to do.  Unless you are at a place that you can co-parent and communicate about your children, then encourage your kids to speak up on how they feel.  My kids appreciate being able to speak their voice and not having mom doing it for them and my ex realizes that it isn’t coming from me.  The more they speak their mind, the less resistance my ex had towards me and the fewer battles we had between us.  During the divorce, everything seemed like a fight, and afterward  It wasn’t until there was a consensus that the kids come first, that we had a much easier time communicating.  For us, it didn’t happen at the same time, I begged for a very long time for us to ONLY focus on the kids and put them first, but everyone has to work through their own issues to get there.  I’m just grateful we’re finally at a place that we can do that and not EVERYTHING is a battle.
Acceptance
  1. Accept they will be in your life for the rest of your life.  Soak that in for a moment.  It seems simple enough, but it’s not.  We found that it wasn’t over at the divorce finalization.  I wanted to get away from him and vice versa, but we had kids.  There is nothing worse than being granted that divorce and realizing that you still have to deal with them for the rest of your life.  It sounds horrible.  Here’s the kicker, it’s not for you.  What wouldn’t you do for your kids?  Now add biting your tongue for the sake of them having a happy childhood, with both of you.  Could you take away their happiness in order for you to be happy?  Nope.  So accept that you may no longer like them, no longer be married to them, but you can never take away the fact that they are your kid’s parent as well.  No matter what the court decides in regards to visitation, holidays, etc, they have the right to a relationship with them as well.  The quicker you accept it as a fact of life, the quicker you can focus on more important things.  You have birthdays, graduations, weddings, grandkids and more ahead of both of you, why make it miserable events for your children?
This Too Shall Pass
  1. Pain doesn’t last forever unless you give it life.  Everything in the moment seems magnified. Love. Divorce. Death.  But as time passes, these too shall pass.  When it seems hard, breathe.  Remember that you are further today than you were yesterday.  Keep in mind that your kids deserve all the happiness in the world.  Resolve yourself to be that ray of sunshine for them.  They grow, they go off to school, they live their own lives, and they’re not home forever.  Why not make those years the happiest regardless of what’s going on around them?  If your ex can’t find it in them to make your kids happy, they’ll eventually have adult kids that will make them answer for it.  Don’t worry about it.  Do your part.  Controlling other people and what they do or don’t do for your kids isn’t an option, only what you do is.
Put The Kids First
  1. I know, you think this probably should be first on the list, but the reason it’s last on the list is because learning to co-parent is a process and there will be days you just don’t have the patience to do anything else on this list.  Do this one, if you can’t do anything else.  Our kids didn’t ask to be here; they didn’t ask for the divorce, they didn’t ask for the mess, so they shouldn’t have to face the consequences of our actions.  We decided to have them and they were made in a moment of love.  Don’t begrudge them that love because you no longer feel it for your ex.  Your kids are a daily reminder that you once loved someone so much; you created a life with them.  Although they no longer hold that love anymore, you owe it to your children to continue to love them as deeply as you once loved their other parent.  Consider all that pain you feel and everything you’re going through as a bullet.  What parent wouldn’t step in front of a bullet for their children?  Do the same with that emotional baggage you’re carrying.  Protect them.  Divorce is an adult situation that is yours, not theirs.  You divorced your spouse, not your kids.  Keep it that way.

At the end of the day, these are always easier said than done.  I can’t speak for everyone and every situation, only myself.  This is what kept me sane.  This is what helped on the path of successfully co-parenting.  This is just my situation.  By all means, the children’s safety is the number one priority and if the situation is such that co-parenting is not an option, do what you can to keep the kids safe.  These are not the only steps to a successful co-parenting relationship; there are many ways to learn to co-parent.  Understanding that the need is there and the kids come first is that best thing you can do on the path to success and having happy and healthy kids.

-Sandra

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pen & notepad 5 ways to declutter

Before you take on the task of decluttering your life, pinpoint first what it is that you DO want in your life and realize that everything else can go.  Accept that it won’t happen immediately and that’s okay. We tend to put all kinds of pressure and deadlines on ourselves and then get stressed out about it when we fail.  Guess what?  There is no timeline to declutter your life.  You didn’t overwhelm your life with clutter overnight, so give yourself a break.  It’s completely unrealistic to expect to declutter it overnight.

Things to take into account:

-Do I really want this or am I keeping it for sentimental reasons? 

Take into account how many times that precious sentimental item that you love so much is brought out or used.  Is it really all that sentimental to you or is the memory of it you’re holding on to.

-Do I really love it?

Surround yourself with love, people you love, things you love, pets you love, etc.  If you’re putting it out for the sake of putting it out, or hiding it behind something else, you really don’t love it.  And if you don’t love it, you don’t need it to collect dust and waste space in your life or in your home.

-Can I do without?

If you have 6 of the same item, rethink it. Why do you need 6?  Are they all in working order? Do you use 6 at the same time?

-Does it fit into your life? 

If there is a place in your life for it, keep it.  If it’s something that ONCE had a place in your life, but no longer does, but you’re “saving” it, get rid of it.  It’s like holding on to an old boyfriend that once had a place and no longer does.  Why hold on? For the sake of memories?  How about making new ones instead.

-Is it broken or no longer fits?

Definitely get rid of it.  Don’t hold on to “what-if’s”.  No one ever got anywhere with what if’s.  Don’t allow for it to hold you back. Go out and buy “right now’s” and toss those “what-if’s” jeans or whatever out.

So, as you address the following 5 tips to declutter your body, mind, and life, repetitively ask yourself those questions above.

  1. Do it yearly. Who says decluttering needs to be immediate? Every time you pull out a seasonal box to put up decorations, Christmas, Easter or what have you, weed it out. For example, Christmas is my favorite holiday, and I’m not going to lie, my home tends to look like a Christmas boutique around the holidays.  It takes so long to take everything out, let alone put it all away again.  So what do I do, I declutter as I go, both as I pull things out and again, when I put things away.  I set myself a limit.  For every new Christmas chachski I buy myself, I consider it a replacement, not a new item for my collection. So, if I buy something new, I HAVE to weed out something old. By creating limits, you keep the build up from getting any bigger.  This is especially helpful after the first decluttering you do.  I’ve been able to widdle down my Christmas décor to a few boxes and I refuse to let that collection get any bigger.  By keeping it to a few boxes, I keep my Christmas clutter to a minimum and save some money, time, and livable space in my home.  If you can live without it for a whole year, chances are you can live without it much longer than that.
  2. Take baby steps. Start with one thing at a time.  For example, if you have a favorite drink that you know is no good for you and you want to lose weight and declutter your body of toxins, start with that drink.  For me, it’s Dr Pepper.  I’ve done Dr. Pepper mornings (instead of coffee) for as long as I can remember.  It’s not a matter of willpower; I had to stop drinking it throughout both of my pregnancies due to gestational diabetes, so I know I can do it.  If you can get rid of that one thing that you think you can’t do without, than everything else will be a piece of cake to get rid of.  Getting rid of the hardest thing to get rid of for the sake of your health, opens up the door to getting rid of those you could easily do without anyway.  Do it at your speed.  For me, I went without Dr. Pepper for a month, and then slowly started adding other things to get rid of. Am I where I want to be?  No, but am I further along than last month? Hell yes!  I didn’t gain weight overnight and I won’t lose it overnight either. But steps forward, no matter how slow, is still progress.  Don’t beat yourself up if you take a few back along the way, as long as you continue to move forward.
  3. Weed out your social media. If you are public in all of these, I can’t help you out here, other than to suggest making them all private and weeding people out.  However, if you are private and you have collected people throughout the years for the sake of not rejecting their requests, rethink that.  The whole purpose of social media is to connect with people, to be social.  But what I’ve found is that I have more “acquaintances” than friends.  Are you ever annoyed scrolling through your newsfeed?  Weed it out.  It’s your prerogative to surround yourself with those people you CHOOSE to have in your life.  Declutter your friends list.  It’s okay.  It’s your newsfeed; everyone else can do what they want with theirs.  Here’s the deal, negativity or just being annoyed with someone for the content of their posts, even if it’s on their wall, still affects you.  Do you want to see someone constantly fighting with others about politics?  Do you want to see a million pictures of someone else’s pet in sweaters?  Is someone always posting about some sad problem constantly affecting their life and when you reach out they refuse to respond?  Bottom line, if it bothers you to see those posts, get rid of them.  If you don’t have time in your life to connect with them, get rid of them.  If you don’t want to get rid of them for the sake of having tons of people connected to you, but you still don’t want to see all that, filter your newsfeed.  The point is, if you don’t have the time or energy for it, or you just don’t want to see it……get rid of it.  Believe it or not, it emotionally and/or mentally clutters your brain every time you see something you don’t want to see.
  4. Stop spending frivolously. Don’t you wish you could spend your money on frivolous things and not bills!?!  Here’s the thing, you can do both if you want.  The faster you wrap your head around the fact that you deserve to make yourself happy, the happier you will be.  Do you need 8,000 channels on cable or can you live with the low easy cost of Netflix, so you can spend some money elsewhere?  Is eating out, wasting money on food that is unhealthy for you anyway, better than investing in a few cooking classes that can help you eat healthier AND teach you to cook?  It’s all a matter of perspective.  Having a healthy view of money goes a long way.  I was raised that no matter what you do in life, there is a cost.  Eating unhealthy food = to being unhealthy.  Owning a home = paying a mortgage…. And on and on.  Prioritize what is important to you and go for it, but always keep in mind what your responsibilities are and find what your balance is.  Bottom line, you’re going to be in debt no matter what you do.  Whether you own a home, drive a car, even if those are paid for, you still have insurance to buy, gas to fill the tank, property taxes to pay, it’s all still a debt.  If you can balance those responsibilities and accept them as part of life, saving money just makes sense and you’ll find it’s so much easier to do.  Especially if you calculate if things are worth it.  What I mean is, is it worth it to work x amount of hours of overtime, so you can eat out every night and save yourself the trouble of having to cook?  Then do it.  But if giving up time away from your family, or let’s say something as simple as sleeping in, is it still worth it?  I don’t have those answers for you, that’s something you have to determine for yourself.  Everyone has their own priorities.  Finding out what yours are, then make a plan and declutter your finances.  You’ll be surprised how much you’ve been spending on things you don’t “need” versus buying those things that you “want”.
  5. Cleanse your Soul.  Decluttering your soul is a lifetime process. Does it mean you have to strive for perfection?  Nope.  It just means, if you think you need to work on yourself, do it.  Here’s how I handle mine, I have kids, I’m their example, and it’s that simple.  I used to live my life as if God was watching.  Being religious, that’s usually what you’re taught, so that’s what I did.  However, I still did things I wasn’t proud of and for that, I had the confessional booth.  However, now that I have kids, I know that I’m their first role model.  They’ll have many throughout their lives, teachers, mentors, friends, spouses, and more, but I’m their very first.  Do I have to be perfect? Nope, I just have to be the best version of me possible.  I don’t know about you, but with my religious upbringing (and the confessional) I still had a great amount of guilt for my mistakes.  I’d have that voice in the back of my mind constantly reminding me that I wasn’t perfect and that I had failed.  I shifted my perspective and those nagging thoughts are gone.  When you realize you just need to be the best you you can be, any sense of guilt for falling short is gone.  Why is that?  Because you’re not being measured up to someone else’s measure of who you should be, it’s your own.  You essentially declutter the constraints of someone else’s image of who you should be and set your own self acceptance, mistakes and all.

Do I have the answers for everything? Nope.  Is my life perfectly decluttered? Nope.  But I’m slowly getting to where I want to be and weeding out what I don’t want in my life.  I make no excuses for my life.  Its mine.  How and what I want in it, is my choice.  What better time to start living life in the manner that you choose to, then right now?  So go for it!

-Sandra